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"The chief problem in any community cursed with crime is not the punishment of the criminals, but the preventing of the young from being trained to crime"
--W.E.B. Dubois

SHARPEN YOUR SKILLS AS A PARENT

Youth join gangs because they provide support, care, and a sense of order and purpose - all the things parents try to give to their children. Odds are that the more effectively parents meet these needs; the less likely children are to seek fulfillment through gangs. The following are important parenting skills to learn and use consistently:

bulletTalk with and listen to your child.
bulletSpend special quality time with each child.
bullet Put a high value on education and help your child do his or her best in school. Starting when they enter school and continuing through graduation.
bulletHelp your kids identify positive role models and heroes, especially people in your community.
bulletDo everything possible to involve your children in supervised, positive group activities.
bulletPraise them for doing well.
bulletEncourage them to do their very best.
bulletKnow what your children are doing and with whom.
bulletFind out about their friends and their friends' families.
bulletTalk about gangs before they become a problem.
bulletTell your child that you disapprove of gangs, and you don't want to see them involved.
bulletRemind your child they're special and worth protecting.
bulletMake yourself open to help your child with their problems.
bulletEncourage them to not keep secrets from you.
bulletAsk them to help you and other parents work together against gangs.

Listen to your child! Be an active, not a passive parent!

Together we can end the cycle of violence


HELP KEEP GANGS OUT OF YOUR COMMUNITY

Everyone wants a gang free community. When gangs become active in your neighborhoods, everyone loses - children, parents and the community as a whole. If gangs take charge of your neighborhood, there are ways to take back control. Here is a partial list of methods to help keep gangs out of your communities.


First, develop positive alternatives for kids. What are some after-school and weekend activities kids can enjoy? Can the school offer its' facilities? Can parents organize clubs or sports? Can older kids tutor or mentor younger ones? Can kids themselves contribute their ideas?

Second, talk with other parents. For one, you'll find out what other parents know about gangs. You can also support each other and share knowledge that may help prevent problems. You'll do better as a team than on your own.

Third, work with police and other agencies. Report suspicious activity, especially gang graffiti. Set up a Neighborhood Watch or other community patrol program with police support. Work with other agencies, like 2nd Chance to help combat gangs in your area.

Fourth, organize community resources. Put together a roster of resources available in your own community that you can turn to for help. In addition to the police, try any of the following individuals or groups:

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priest or minister

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family counselor

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community association

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school counselor or principal

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athletic coach

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Boys & Girls Clubs

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YMCA or YWCA

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Boy or Girl Scouts

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Police Activities League

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2nd Chance Youth Program or other community centers

 

Sandra’s story continues …she joined Frank’s group of students who were part of an intervention program through 2nd Chance. As the weeks went by, Frank saw a change in Sandra and decided to invite her to be part of his student staff. She became a co-facilitator for the group. Sandra helped conduct meetings and offered insight about the group dynamics only a teenager could provide. She became interested in school again and as part of her community service requirements, offered to participate in community presentations.


Signs of Gang Activity

Gangs leave signs of their presence. Your child may adopt some of those signs as either someone who wants to be a gang member, already a gang member or is imitating gang behavior and dress. Your child may be:

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Wearing specific colors or emblems on clothing

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Special hand signals to form letters with their fingers

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Gang symbols or graffiti on their room walls, books and school supplies, or clothing

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Major and negative behavior changes, such as:

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Declining school performance

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Staying out late at night without a good reason

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"Hanging around" with known or suspected gang members

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Carrying weapons

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Possessing unexplained, relatively large sums of money

Please keep in mind that just because your child may be reflecting one or more of these behaviors, it does not mean they are joining a gang. But this should be a warning to you to take a more active roll in your child's life to correct this behavior.
 

 
   
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